So, in honour of my birthday (let's not go too crazy here, I mentally feel 20 and act it too!) I wanted to share with some of you things that I have learned, in hopes that I am not yet "too old" for you to feel you can glean something from this.
What I Learned by 30 That You Should Know Sooner...
1. Your number of true friends is limited.
All those high school besties you said you had - over time they will dwindle and become the friends on one hand that you can TRULY count on in times of need. Those who are really there. The rest fade in time. Friends are about a numbers game anyway. It's better to have 2 close best friends that are there for you day and night than 200 acquaintances that don't even know your middle name.
2. Tell people how you feel.
I'm talking about love here. Tell your family, tell your friends. Tell anyone who matters. You never know what tomorrow brings, or if you'll get the chance. I lost a very close family member when I was 15, brand new Freshman in high school - he died in our house unexpectedly (heart attack) and I never told him I loved him. He was my stepdad. It has bothered me for 15 years since. Don't be afraid to love, ladies. Never be afraid to love.
3. You are beautiful.
My Mom always says, This is the only body you'll ever have. And it's true. Learn to love you. Maybe you don't like your nose, or the way your knees look in a skirt, or the way you have just a little muffin top when you wear those one pair of pants, but you are BEAUTIFUL. You are so unique and special and there isn't a single person in this world that can replace you. Be comfortable with who you are. Some things you can change - contacts for eye colour, hair dye, exercise for toning or weight loss/control, but you aren't getting any shorter or taller. Your face is your face. Those who love you in life, love YOU. For YOU. You should too. Don't dress for what others think of you! Dress for you. Had I known this in my teen years, I would have been so much happier. Put on that top and those jeans and tell the world, Fuck it. This is ME. Don't like it, don't look. But I'm telling you all, I'm here! And I'm okay with who I am.
4. Don't be afraid to talk
If you're hurting, if you have a secret, if someone has hurt you, please please please PLEASE don't EVER feel afraid to tell someone you can trust. If you don't know someone, reach out on a website, or call a hotline, go on a chatline. Call the authorities. You don't have to hurt and you most certainly aren't alone. Whatever has happened to you, no matter how crazy, someone in this world has gone through something very similar and there are places designed to help you, save you. And you will be okay. Survivors together c:
5. Try not to be so angry at the world.
Let it go. You can only change what's in your circle, but you CAN make a difference in others. Volunteer, do random acts of kindness. Every smile makes a difference.
6. Lastly, enjoy every day.
When I was in high school I remember feeling old and that already life was going fast. I remember being a senior and thinking, Where did all the years go? And now I'm 30 and still thinking the same thing. School, work, dating, engagements, babies, marriages, divorces, moving, interning, and just living in general.. all these things distract you from the days as they pass. Let every day be important. Let every sunrise and sunset you see be something special. Should you see tomorrow, be thankful and start again.
I have been on this app since January and I am so grateful for those of you I know, I have bought from, I have talked to who needed someone to hear them out. You are all amazing, wonderful ladies - biological or not, however you identify - I am thankful for this app connecting me to you