So....I was just in my first long-term relationship for 2 years. Out of nowhere one day, he claimed he no longer found my body or personality attractive. It's really done a number on my self-confidence. I've been surrounding myself with friends as much as possible. Occasionally I feel lonely. Overall, I want to move on and talk to other guys, but we've only been broken up for a month (after a serious 2 years) and I'm worried anything will just be a rebound. How will I know when I'm ready to move on? Any advice?
@b_mack YOU are beautiful!!! And honestly breakups suck, but you'll eventually get over it and find someone better. Obviously if that was the reason he broke up with you, he wasn't that great to begin with. With that being said, you can take that time to focus on you! If there's something you'd like to do more of, this is your chance! It'll make you feel better and focus on more positive things in your life!! ❤️ and if you'd like to date even for a rebound, that's up to you, girl. Do what makes you feel better. I've dated a bunch of guys after my first breakup. One of them I regretted but that was a long time ago now and happy where I am now. Someone will eventually come along that'll be worthwhile to you. And you'll know when you're ready to move on, when you end up dating someone better ☺️. Honestly... from my experience, I was forcing myself to date and obviously that's when I knew I wasn't ready at all. Eventually time will pass and if you cultivate loving yourself by surrounding yourself with it, more love will come back to you and your life and then you'll know. Let me know how things work out for you! I'd love to hear it ☺️
That's awful heartbreak sucks been there done it all mine were because of being cheated on. You'll find someone better when you least expect it I did and he loves me completely flaws and all we been together 3-1/2 years now through good times and bad and we're still rocking . You'll find someone who loves you for you but love yourself first don't let no man make you think your not good enough or worthy enough because you are .
Well he doesn't have eyes, clearly, because you're cute as a button. It takes time. It hurts like absolute hell. There's not much help for it except for knowing it won't hurt this bad forever. Distraction is key. You will feel when it's right. Or more like it won't feel wrong and weird...
In my case, I found a rebound who I was also a rebound for. It didn't feel like we were leading each other on. It was like a two person lonely hearts club. Lol. Not for everyone, obviously, but just sharing my experience.
You'll get through it, beautiful. I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
Take some time for yourself, friends, and family! Sounds like you have a good support system and that's always helpful. Find something new to do that can possibly make new friends too. I don't think you need to move on to someone else no rush at all if you do find someone who you really like and makes you feel good then go for it. Breakups are always hard but after awhile you'll notice that you don't notice it anymore. 💛