I will keep this anon because I honestly don't want people to feel sorry, I just need to get this out.
I've been with my fiancé for almost 5 years. Things were great in the beginning (like always) than about 2 yrs ago, it changed. Like 360 in a night changed. He started getting more controlling. he made me quit my job because I worked with guys, I'm not allowed to have ANY friends at all. If he knew I was on here, I would have my phone taken. I have to delete this app and any other "social" app before he comes home everyday because he checks my phone. He's been abusive when I had innocent convos with old friends, so I had to stop. I know being in this relationship is hard and trust me I WANT OUT! But I have no money, no place to go, no car (he sold it so I couldn't leave or visit people). I can't move home (due to family issues). All my old friends hate me now so I can't rely on them. My only source of income is this site, and the few dollars I can sneak away from him without him noticing. I'm currently saving up so I can leave, but idk how much longer I can stay. Sales on here have gone down and now he is talking about making a budget so we can save to move out of our town. So I'll literally have no way of getting money from him when he starts this budget. I was going to leave when he originally started getting too controlling. My grandfather said I could move in with him and my grandmother in Florida, but he passed away shortly after from lung cancer. My grandmother hates me, and refuses to let me stay with her. I literally have no one and nothing. I can't tell you how bad I want to leave. Every cent I get makes me that much more hopeful, and closer to being rid of this nightmare. I know you must be thinking I'm stupid for staying, I know I am. Trust me id leave if it were an option. But I don't want to be homeless again.
I'm sorry I'm really not here for attention, I just needed somewhere to finally vent the hell I've been dealing with. It's a lot worse, but this post would be way too long, and I don't feel like boring anyone with my "sob" story. Just..don't let anyone take advantage of you..ever. Take it from someone who is currently going through it. If you have a way to get out, TAKE IT! Living this life is not what anyone should have to go through. And I hope one day, my story will save someone from going through the same thing I did.
Girl...I understand better than you know. It's difficult for me to say that it will still be better for you to be homeless than to stay but it will be. I agree with tina.m.lentz; find a women's shelter. They usually will help you find a job, too. I'm sure you're terrified that he'll find you, too but what helped me through was to remember that if I wasn't going to live there was no reason to fear death. I don't even know what to say really. I wish so much that I could help you...I'm still living my nightmare but at least I'm living through it. It's better...trust me.
I read this and all I want to do is tell you come live with me. There are options and people do love and care. Get to a shelter. Go to even a ex friends house. Be strong. You are amazing and we all love you on here.
Go to a church. A small one has a closer community but a large one has more resources and experience. Church offices are usually open during the week or just go up to any girl, young or old and explain your situation. We Christians may seem judgmental because we try not to indulge in sin but we are very quick to help. The church can find someone, a single young woman or a reliable family to live with. Then you can apply to become a cruise attendant! They make decent money, need only the most basic skills and get to visit fabulous places. You'll have a home and food when you're on a cruise ship and you can be safe and break free. If I knew of anyone in your situation I would take you into my house in an instant, and I don't know anybody in my family, friends or church who would not go through all kinds of difficulties to provide shelter for a girl or boy trying to escape their past and start afresh. If you live in South Carolina or an adjoining state, message me and I'll come pick you up!
Try a church, any church, especially a big one. A Christian ministry helped me and my mom get out many years ago. They helped us find a place to stay, they helped with bills, furniture, appliances, everything because we left with nothing. They could have done more but my mom didn't want to press charges. Even if you have to start with nothing girl I promise it will be worth it! Our lives are short, don't waste it with a man who treats you like that! This situation really hits home with me, if there's anything I can do please don't hesitate to ask. My prayers go out to you
im in tx if you need i will come get you I'm off till Monday.. You need to get out yesterday. He will find that money before you save enough. You're family will take you in to get you away from him. You need to go to a womens shelter, church, or university and then call your family. Seriously, i have a free ticket through sw i can give you please message me. you need to go!
I agree with everyone, you need to get away from him! He's way too controlling and it can lead to a path of abuse next! You're lucky you didn't marry him yet, I would get out of this relationship asap. Like the others said, try a shelter, church, and community. There are many people out there with goods hearts that would take you in their home/give you resources until you get back on your feet. You're a strong, independent woman and can't be caged like this any longer!
Not even a question shaelove!! Nobody should live in fear and I have a spare bedroom with locks and a bus stop/independence 50 feet away. I'm proud of you for saying no and you don't deserve this and trying to make a brake, you need to go right now today dont look back and dont give it a second thought!!!!!